What do I see when I look in the mirror? Am I happy with the woman staring back at me? Sometimes, but in different ways than I did when I was younger, and never content because I always strive to be better and do better. See, when I was younger I was incredibly self-conscious about […]
Read more‘No’ is a Complete Sentence
The title is something I am constantly invoking, especially when speaking with one of my brothers. He is one of the most kind-hearted and purest souls of a person that I know, and he absolutely hates disappointing people. So much so, in fact, that often times he stretches himself too thin or ends up inundated […]
Read moreI Wonder When I Love Me is Enough?
Be patient with yourself; be kind, and nurturing, and understanding. We are all processing this current pandemic in a multitude of ways, and everyone right now is suffering from a variety of losses, from personal, professional, educational and recreational. There is no right or wrong way to grieve the missed dances, graduations, weddings, and competitions, […]
Read moreOne is the Loneliest Number
Oxygen, water, food, shelter and companionship? Do humans really need human interaction to survive just as resolutely as we need food and water? According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, we do. There is a reason solitary confinement in the prisons is used as a form of punishment. There’s a reason Tom Hank’s character in Castaway […]
Read morePatience is a Virtue
Balance. Everything in life ebbs and flows as we try to reach an equilibrium in our lives. I balance the role of dutiful girlfriend, doting pseudo parent, BJJ instructor, business owner, and mma fighter. I’m always constantly worrying that I am putting too much effort into a handful of those things and stress myself out […]
Read moreEverything Hurts; Enjoy the Ride
Sometimes, it can be pretty cathartic to vent out our grievances, but it also bares in mind the question of when it’s acceptable to complain about a handful of things and when it just becomes annoying. No one likes a complainer Karen, so chill out with your degenerative disks and arthritic fingers. Guess what, if […]
Read moreRecovery; Good for the Body, Good for the Soul
Buckle your seat belts boys and girls, it’s time for another blog day Tuesday! I know I’ve talked before about the importance of self care (not only in Jiu Jitsu, but in life as well), and of the bonds we form in this sport that are incomparable to anything I can really explain, but I’d […]
Read moreIt’s Okay to Not be Okay
Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more posts on social media in regards to mental health and my friend’s persistent struggles with bouts of sadness and depression. These feelings impact more people than we could possibly imagine, but since mental health is seen as a “weakness” or taboo subject, many end up suffering in silence, […]
Read moreStress Less, Live Best
I spent years of my life being a perfectionist. Slaving over my work and striving for achievements until I excelled. I was a straight A student, involved in multiple clubs and extra curricular activities, volunteered in my spare time and played on a variety of Varsity sports teams. I was on the Dean’s list, the […]
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