I have always found that people are like icebergs; you see a tiny bit of them peeking out above the surface, but there is so much more of them that lies beneath which you can not see. There is a part of us we openly display to the world, i.e., in public and across social […]
Read moreStanding on Business
Samantha Schell BJJ, Overcoming Adversity, self confidence brave, confident, courageous, emotions, facts, feeliings 19
People can proclaim all they want until they are blue in the face that they know right from wrong, or aren’t hateful, prejudiced, or critical of someone, but actions always speak louder than words. Pay attention to the unconscious biases around you. Several years ago, I wrote about an instance when my husband and I […]
Read moreShe Who Hesitates is Lost
Samantha Schell Anxiety, BJJ, Competing, Overcoming Adversity Anxiety, Competition, fear, hesitate, hesitation, injury, nerves 8
I’ve heard about things like a creative block, or writer’s block, which fortunately, I haven’t really faced all that much. But when is it called when you’re having a competition block? I mean, I went from someone who was eager to compete and did so all of the time, practically every weekend, to having a […]
Read moreI’m a Dumb Dumb
Samantha Schell BJJ, Overcoming Adversity, Perseverance, self confidence, Stress bjj, injury, knee, ouch, pain, pain management 4
Me to me every day: “It is a privilege to get older. Life is full of wonderful things. I am enjoying reaching every new era in my life.” My knees: “Settle the fuck down. You’re in your 30’s. The right knee is hanging on by a thread and swelling day by day.” I just turned […]
Read moreGiving Thanks
It’s Thanksgiving week, so obviously it seems fitting to dedicate a blog to the things in my life I am thankful for. It’s been a tough year full of loss, but also wonderful moments in the year as well. I earned my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt after almost 10 years of continuous daily training […]
Read moreDo Not Mistake Kindness for Weakness
The world is so full of negativity, and terrible things happening everywhere in places far and wide, that we should all welcome when there exists a person in our life who goes above and beyond for others, a ray of light in ever-dimming universe. This is something I, myself have tried to work on over […]
Read moreLet Them
Samantha Schell Adaptation, BJJ, mental health, Overcoming Adversity, Perseverance, Positivity, self confidence friendships, girls, Jiu Jitsu, karma, lies, truth 1
There are people out there who choose to make you a villain in the story so that they come off a little better, and as much as it may sting to not have your side heard, sometimes you just gotta let people talk until their throat becomes raw with the amount of lies they spew […]
Read moreI Hope the Angels Know What They Have
I can’t believe I wrote a post a few weeks ago lamenting my age lines and the deterioration of my body, when it’s such a privilege to grow old enough to see those withered lines looking back at me in the mirror. The longer we live, the more we experience the loss of loved ones […]
Read moreNot Good Enough
Samantha Schell Anxiety, BJJ, Competing, Positivity, self confidence bjj, competing, Competition, confidence, Jiu Jitsu 1
Why is it that sometimes we always feel that nothing we do in life will ever be good enough, and we always have these unattainable standards to hold ourselves to? It seems that we can accomplish so much in life, but unless we are always reaching that #1 spot, or best of the best, it […]
Read moreGiving Them Their Shine
Samantha Schell Anxiety, BJJ, Competing, Family, Friendship, love, self confidence Anxiety, bjj, Competition, ego, family, friendship, jiu jitus, love, relationships, work
Is my partner my biggest advocate, confidante, cheerleader, supporter? Or secretly, a hater lurking in the shadows? By this I mean are they truly rooting for me when I am excelling in things, even when they themselves are coming up short, which let’s be honest, can be quite the blow to anyone’s ego. Watching those around […]
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