A Guide to Not Giving a F*ck

So the other day I walk into my second favorite place on the planet, the bookstore, (the gym and cage are obviously the #1 contenders) and I head over to the selection of the most current best sellers. I happen to notice the majority of the most recent best selling books are self-help ones. Not […]

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Atelophobia

Honestly, I can’t be the only person out there who goes through periods of time where it feels like nothing I do is good enough. I am struggling on the mats and I am struggling in life and I just can’t seem to make things work. I try so hard, and sometimes I just hit […]

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Life Owes You Nothing. You Owe Yourself Everything

The world owes you nothing; it was here first. Nobody cares about your excuses, procrastinations, or laziness. Sometimes this can be absolutely brutal to hear, but it’s true. Good things do not come to those who wait, but to those who get up off their asses and go out there and get it. I found […]

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Failure Fuels Fortitude

As I’m sure many of you know, I am not writing this post as a champion. In fact, I am not even writing this post as a winner as I lost my title fight on Friday via second round TKO. Unfortunately, I reverted back to a lot of my old bad habits, didn’t listen to […]

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Don’t Let Me Get Me

This will be the year that I stop self sabotaging, I just need to keep repeating that mantra over and over. I am so guilty of this, in life, on the mats, even with my own family, and I hate myself and feel so much shame over it. This past weekend is such a good […]

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Everything Hurts; Enjoy the Ride

Sometimes, it can be pretty cathartic to vent out our grievances, but it also bares in mind the question of when it’s acceptable to complain about a handful of things and when it just becomes annoying. No one likes a complainer Karen, so chill out with your degenerative disks and arthritic fingers. Guess what, if […]

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New Year, Who Dis??

Welp, it’s officially 2019 team and we made it through another year. If you’re reading this expecting me to come out swinging with some “new year, new me” bs, let me stop you right now. Unfortunately for all of you, I plan on coming into 2019 the same old tenacious little midget with high aspirations […]

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I’m Doing the Best That I Can

All I can do in life is try, and I promise I am out here doing the best that I can. Oh do I stumble more frequently than an elf drudged up on too much eggnog, but still I continue to try. And I enjoy recognizing the efforts of those who are out here trying […]

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The Hammer & the Nail

There are days where regardless of what’s going on, I’m a positive ray of sunshine, and then there are days far too often where no matter what the circumstances surrounding me are, I can’t seem to shake the feeling of overcast clouds encroaching upon me. There’s a pretty common saying in Jiu Jitsu; sometimes you’re […]

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Who Run the World?

Women. The bearers of the children, the maternal figure, the estrogen fueled gentle warrior. A vast multitude of adjectives can be used to describe her role, but what I never want the word ‘woman’ to be synonymous with is ‘victim’ or ‘weak’. This past weekend, I hosted a 2 hour free women’s self defense seminar […]

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