Always a tough line I’d struggled with finding the right balance between for a long time. I wanted to have faith in my demeanor and abilities but suffered with the fear that it would come across as arrogance and cockiness. How can I exude an air of being strong and confident in myself without portraying […]
Read mores been a hot minute since I slapped this blog with some well-thought out wisdom from the back corners of my brain. Am I an expert on any type of life advice? Nay I say, but I do now how to execute words proficiently through paper and to say it with conviction through my chest until it penetrates the skulls of those who need to hear it and would benefit from it most.
Read morejoke with my partner about his social abilities and extroverted abilities while I’m often perfectly content in my solitude and the quiet. While this can be perceived as stand off-ish, it’s honestly just because my mind needs time to recharge and my emotional state to recuperate
Read morethe Jiu Jitsu community. Talks of sexual assault and rape of minors as the higher-ups in these prominent organizations are getting lambasted (and rightfully so), for sweeping these charges under the rug. Even worse, many of those accused and even found guilty of such disgusting charges have not only not been punished or ostracized from their affiliations, they have been allowed to retain their instructor positions, even still being in an authoritative role involving children.
Read moreInteresting. I started this blog primarily to write and document my experiences training and competing in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and MMA, and then I find myself relating it to my emotions and personal life experiences more often than not. It has become a therapeutic outlet in a safe space I can air out my grievances […]
Read moreMany times, when you ask people what their greatest fear is, they will immediately reply back with the fear of failure. But often times, this is not the case. It is not the actuality of failure that we fear, it is the fear of disappointing others in our lives or even ourselves. Everyone fails, that’s […]
Read moreTraveling to no gi pans this past weekend was full of a wide variety of emotions. Namely, feelings of inequality, unworthiness, shunted aside, and like the sidekick. Traveling to Texas through numerous airports, my fiancé and I wearing similar outfits all bedecked and emblazoned with our gym and Jiu Jitsu logos and identical gym bags. […]
Read moreEverything is hard, you just gotta be bigger than your excuses and greater than your fears. Sure, easier said than done, but when are we going to stop letting our mind limit us and dictate our destinies? Someone* recently told me that anxiety is an emotion, not a diagnosis or personality trait, and to use […]
Read moreThere is no one alive out there who is keeping a track record of our successes and our failures and detailing every step in our journeys. Even our most loathsome “enemy” isn’t tallying all that we do, from our greatest opponent and adversary to what may very well be just a bitter ex dating partner. […]
Read moreThere are no gold medals to be won in our gym, our teammates are not our adversaries, there is no financial gain or televised viewing of any championship while we are in the gym training. These are practices meant to push us to prepare us for the arduous battles to come when we do decide […]
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