I can’t believe I wrote a post a few weeks ago lamenting my age lines and the deterioration of my body, when it’s such a privilege to grow old enough to see those withered lines looking back at me in the mirror. The longer we live, the more we experience the loss of loved ones […]
Read moreGiving Them Their Shine
Samantha Schell Anxiety, BJJ, Competing, Family, Friendship, love, self confidence Anxiety, bjj, Competition, ego, family, friendship, jiu jitus, love, relationships, work
Is my partner my biggest advocate, confidante, cheerleader, supporter? Or secretly, a hater lurking in the shadows? By this I mean are they truly rooting for me when I am excelling in things, even when they themselves are coming up short, which let’s be honest, can be quite the blow to anyone’s ego. Watching those around […]
Read moreFeeling Seen
Samantha Schell Adaptation, Anxiety, BJJ, Friendship adversity, bjj, differences, dynamics, extrovert, introvert, Jiu Jitsu, positivity
Lately, I’ve been making a bunch of Jiu Jitsu related content and videos on my social media pages, and I’ve read all of the comments underneath them, many laden with “I feel so seen!” And it really got me thinking about outliers in the community. Like dang, if you don’t fall into this neat little […]
Read moreThe Cheese Stands Alone
Samantha Schell Adaptation, Friendship, mental health, Overcoming Adversity alone, mental health, positivity, rising above, strength, together
I worked so hard growing up never to stand out. I wanted to blend right in so I wouldn’t be differentiated and then subjected to scrutiny and ridicule. Never alone, but always amongst others where I could camouflage myself in the crowd. Early on in childhood, I pushed hard to excel and stand out. Then, […]
Read moreCupid’s Chokehold
Samantha Schell Family, Friendship, love husband, husband and wife, love, marriage, valentine, wife 2
It’s the 6th Valentine’s Day together with my person, but the first one as husband and wife. And yes, while I think this is a dumb commercial holiday all meant for the greeting card companies and chocolate companies to make copious amounts of money, I can’t help but to feel somewhat sentimental and especially grateful […]
Read moreA Rising Tide Lifts All Ships
It’s 2023, a new year, time to leave all the bullshit behind in the past. I can guarantee that every woman (and perhaps some men) reading this blog can relate to their story of a fake ass friend, whether from their days of adolescence, to through the teenage years, and even now in adulthood. Not […]
Read moreIt’s Giving: Unproblematic Queens
Samantha Schell BJJ, Family, Friendship, Positivity female empowerment, friends, friendship, positivity, women
Nothing in this life will age you faster than the stress that comes with having toxic people in your life, so as hard as it may be, you need to cut those people off and surround yourself with positive ones instead. Women need other uplifting women in their life to radiate powerful effeminate yet masculine […]
Read moreTick, Tick, Tick
It’s crazy to me how these seconds turn into minutes, turn into hours, turn into days, turn into weeks, turn into months, then turn into years trickling on by. Before you know it, you blink and a decade has passed, then another. I have such a distinct memory of being in 4th grade, and it […]
Read moreIn the End, the Love You Take, is Equal to the Love You Make
Samantha Schell Family, Friendship, love, Perseverance discipline, exhaustion, fighting, hard work, love, motivation, relationships 6
Sitting my run down, worn out, bedraggled booty on the couch, sipping my triple espresso ice coffee, and mustering up the energy to begin my trainings and fight prep for the day. You see, motivation is a bitch. It’s not always there when you need it, sometimes it refuses to rear its ugly head, no […]
Read moreStank Coochie Energy
Women hating on other women, or in any way being disrespectful for no reason, or putting other females down is stank coochie energy. Feel free to quote me on this for all future endeavors. Especially as ladies in a predominantly male sport, do better. We know this isn’t a beauty contest and some of y’all […]
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