There is no one alive out there who is keeping a track record of our successes and our failures and detailing every step in our journeys. Even our most loathsome “enemy” isn’t tallying all that we do, from our greatest opponent and adversary to what may very well be just a bitter ex dating partner. […]
Read moreI’m tired of being too fearful to establish boundaries in my life. Whether that be everyday happenstances, personal or professional relationships, or even everyday meet and greets. I also owe zero explanation for my reasonings for establishing said boundaries and hard fixed points that will never relent or waver, ever. It is important to stand […]
Read moreWhenever I’ve been fortunate enough to teach a seminar, or a private lesson, or even just a class, I always have the same advice every single time; make the fight as unfair as humanly possible. I do not mean to cheat, or use cheap tricks, or any sort of underhanded techniques. No, what I mean […]
Read moreHow much wasted time is spent dreaming about the possibilities of the future instead of waking up and living it? The time is going to pass regardless, shouldn’t it be spent pursuing our goals, no matter what our age or life circumstances? A whole entire brand new year is upon us, and a wise man […]
Read moreI think sometimes we all need to remind ourselves when we are the g*d damned star of any dish, the Grand Poobah of a feast, the focal point of the dinner table, and the climactic entree of the evening. Sometimes we all need a little nudging reminder that we must stop selling ourselves short and […]
Read moreBlind loyalty has to be without a doubt one of the most self-sabotaging and detrimental behaviors currently running rampant through our people like a pandemic far deadlier and inevitably more contagious than Covid-19. And no, I’m not just talking about aligning with the appropriate colors of your political party and affiliation, but in all aspects […]
Read moreLately, I’ve been really big on female empowerment and women lifting up other women, so I was pretty disappointed the other day to see one of the most commonplace argument in women’s grappling groups take place; makeup on the mats. It’s no secret that women can be quite vicious toward one another, especially in a […]
Read moreFighting is an unconventional occupation as is, but throw in a global pandemic to the mix and suddenly your whole world is in disarray. Understandably, there are numerous unprecedented precautions we all must now implement, but securing a contracted fight during the Covid-19 era is almost damn near impossible. Either people haven’t been training due […]
Read moreStress. One word. 6 letters. A whole bunch of reasons behind it. If you’re anything like me, you find yourself getting frazzled constantly, and often by exceptionally minute things that just tend to pile up over time. Little by little, the grains of sand start forming eclipsing dunes and you’ve made mountains out of mole […]
Read moreThey say that comparison is the thief of all joy, and lately I have been seeing firsthand the reality of that sentiment. No matter how good things can be going for me, I’ll catch a blip of someone else’s social media, and I find myself mourning the lack of something I didn’t even know I […]
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