There are people out there who choose to make you a villain in the story so that they come off a little better, and as much as it may sting to not have your side heard, sometimes you just gotta let people talk until their throat becomes raw with the amount of lies they spew […]
Read moreWhen They Go Low, Aim High
Today, my grumpy neighbor with what must be the world’s biggest stick up his keister, aggressively gestured towards me as I entered my neighborhood. Here I was all chipper, returning after being up at 5:30 am to cover a Jiu Jitsu class for a sick instructor. I stayed late at the gym last night reviewing […]
Read moreAge Before Beauty
My husband is so handsome, and like a fine bourbon barrel aged whiskey, seems to get better over time, laden with intricacies and deeper layers to his appearance, making for an even more appealing and interesting overall aesthetic. After all, he caught the attention of someone 16 1/2 years his junior, and he so often […]
Read moreWe Rock the Spectrum
It’s that time of year again where the chalkboards come up, the first day pictures get taken, the little details get written down on the boards, including one small spot with the dreams for the future, the parents plead with their babies for one small, forced smile, and then they’re on their way out the […]
Read moreGives You Hell
How many people cross paths in our life that truly enjoy every moment of our failures, and relish in every single one of our down falls. Sometimes out of jealousy or envy, or out of a once-soured relationship, or simply because our mere existence seems to bother them. But if there is a universally relatable […]
Read moreRed, White, Black & Blue
I love my sport, I really do, but man this body is taking a beating. Thank god there are so many supplements, vitamins, stem cells, and collagen boosters that help me heal because my body is struggling these days. I am gearing up to go to Open Mat and I am hurting like the dickens […]
Read moreKiss My Muscle-Toned Ass
Y’all, it’s truly crazy the eras and phases my mind, body, and spirit have gone through over the past 3 decades, and the future arcs I will enter going forward. In early adolescence, it was all about lack of self-assuredness and shame over my body. The last of my friends to flourish and bullied by […]
Read moreThe Cheese Stands Alone
I worked so hard growing up never to stand out. I wanted to blend right in so I wouldn’t be differentiated and then subjected to scrutiny and ridicule. Never alone, but always amongst others where I could camouflage myself in the crowd. Early on in childhood, I pushed hard to excel and stand out. Then, […]
Read moreEt Tu, Brute
Some people will never be loyal to you, only to their need of you. Once those needs have been met and you’ve served your purpose, Poof! They rid themselves of you. Betrayal is almost a universally shared heartbreaking experience. We’ve all suffered at its cruel hands, from romantic partners to platonic friends to family members. […]
Read moreStereotypes
Stereotypes exist in BJJ for a reason, as much as we hate to admit it. And although some people get a harder rep for it than others (i.e., the heavyweight white belt dudes), everyone is guilty of these behaviors, it’s just that many times women are smaller with less muscle mass and therefore can be […]
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