Nothing in this life will age you faster than the stress that comes with having toxic people in your life, so as hard as it may be, you need to cut those people off and surround yourself with positive ones instead. Women need other uplifting women in their life to radiate powerful effeminate yet masculine […]
Read moreI write about Jiu Jitsu and MMA a lot, often interspersed with my own feelings, thoughts, and experiences throughout this journey. But I have been unfair to my readers who think they are privy to the innermost workings of my mind and the things that make me tick. See, I don’t often divulge the hard […]
Read moreWhen it comes to the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu competition scene, the ladies divisions are often sparse. I won’t pretend I have been in the game for an exceptionally long time frame, but in the 9 years since I began Jiu Jitsu and started competing, I am lucky to see a handful of female competitors, especially […]
Read moreTraveling to no gi pans this past weekend was full of a wide variety of emotions. Namely, feelings of inequality, unworthiness, shunted aside, and like the sidekick. Traveling to Texas through numerous airports, my fiancĂ© and I wearing similar outfits all bedecked and emblazoned with our gym and Jiu Jitsu logos and identical gym bags. […]
Read moreLately, I’ve been really big on female empowerment and women lifting up other women, so I was pretty disappointed the other day to see one of the most commonplace argument in women’s grappling groups take place; makeup on the mats. It’s no secret that women can be quite vicious toward one another, especially in a […]
Read moreToo fat. Too skinny. Too tall. Too short. Too old. Not strong enough. Not fast enough. Not smart enough. All words we have probably heard muttered about women every now and then, but even worse, these negative phrases are more often than not begrudgingly whispered about in hushed voices by other women. Or otherwise plastered […]
Read moreWomen. The bearers of the children, the maternal figure, the estrogen fueled gentle warrior. A vast multitude of adjectives can be used to describe her role, but what I never want the word ‘woman’ to be synonymous with is ‘victim’ or ‘weak’. This past weekend, I hosted a 2 hour free women’s self defense seminar […]
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