I compete all the time, but my dumb ass seems to have had a mental block lately when it comes to turning on that different mindset so that it transcends from training, to competition. It’s hard; not everyone has that championship mentality switch that they can turn on and off at a moments notice. Then, […]
Read moreLook Them In The Eye
So the other day I was in the deli line at Harris Teeter, and I was watching a woman order her Boar’s Head cold cuts in a rushed and dismissive manner. The young man working the counter must have been 20 at most, and was enthusiastically greeting his customer and engaging in polite conversation to […]
Read more1% Better
There’s a common saying in Jiu Jitsu, that every day we strive to be 1% better. Do you know how difficult and pretty much impossible it is to be a whole ass percentage better than you were the previous day as far as continuity on that path goes? That’s because progress isn’t linear, but instead, […]
Read moreShe Who Hesitates is Lost
Throughout life, I have attempted to try my best. With friendships, relationships, academics, and competition. I’ve accomplished some things, but without a doubt, not one day goes by where I am sure I could have done better. Tried harder. Worked harder. Stopped making excuses. Achieved better results. But I’m a nobody in a sea full […]
Read moreSucking Out the Poison
At the end of the day, a gym is a business, no matter how much it feels like family. Over the years you watch people come and go, and some sting more than others, but it is their prerogative to pay for a different place’s service and you always hope for the best. However, sometimes […]
Read moreWhomst Is She?
I am she who fights in front. Neither watching from the back nor dictating how to lead from afar, but thrusting myself to the front lines of the challenges I face and determined to do all that I can to prepare myself for the battles to come. After all, I could never request favors of […]
Read moreChoose Happy
Fight camp has officially begun, so how am I doing mentally? Surprising really fucking good to be honest. Trust me, I’m just as shocked as you are. Talk to any high-level, elite, professional mixed martial artist and they’ll tell you that the preparation of fight camp is one of the most physically grueling and mentally […]
Read moreTo Lead is to Bleed
Leadership is an acquired skill, not a personality trait. My friend Jess told me this the other day, and she says to credit Jocko Willink for this bit of wisdom, but I’m gonna credit her for bringing it to my attention. You see, I’ve been writing a lot lately about my internal struggles, and I’m […]
Read moreLet Them Eat (Cinna)Cake
You know, the older I get, the more I realize I could give two shit’s about what others think of the way I live my life. I have the people in my life that I care about and that matter to me and everyone else can have whatever opinions of me that they would like […]
Read moreStank Coochie Energy
Women hating on other women, or in any way being disrespectful for no reason, or putting other females down is stank coochie energy. Feel free to quote me on this for all future endeavors. Especially as ladies in a predominantly male sport, do better. We know this isn’t a beauty contest and some of y’all […]
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