Stereotypes exist in BJJ for a reason, as much as we hate to admit it. And although some people get a harder rep for it than others (i.e., the heavyweight white belt dudes), everyone is guilty of these behaviors, it’s just that many times women are smaller with less muscle mass and therefore can be […]
Read moreWhoa, Black Betty, Bam-ba-lam
I swear, I remember my first day on the mats like it was yesterday. I had been an athlete my entire life, varsity sports throughout thee duration of high school, and almost continued my pursuit in sports into college. I had a few scholarships to continue playing soccer into my future studies, but I realized […]
Read moreShoot Your Shot
It goes without saying that the more days you have on this earth, the more hard days and bad days that inevitably arrive at your doorstep. But this also means the more wonderfully great days you will have as well. It is simply the law of averages. The conflict therein lies with understanding that no […]
Read moreWhen Your Ego is Straight Bullshido
There are so many gyms with signs and posters plastered right up front detailing some basic mat rules and gym courtesies. They will say things such as proper mat etiquette with your teammates and coaches (inning up by rank or bowing onto the mats as per tradition), helpful hygiene advice to follow (i.e. keeping the […]
Read moreA Rising Tide Lifts All Ships
It’s 2023, a new year, time to leave all the bullshit behind in the past. I can guarantee that every woman (and perhaps some men) reading this blog can relate to their story of a fake ass friend, whether from their days of adolescence, to through the teenage years, and even now in adulthood. Not […]
Read moreLeaping Into 2023 Fully-Assed
The New Year is upon us, which to me, means a great time for leaving bad habits behind and embracing new routines. For myself personally, that means fully and wholly dedicating myself to every task that lays before me, i.e. never doing anything half-assed, but always with the entirety of all of my buttocks instead. […]
Read moreYule Wish You Trained More Jiu Jitsu
It can be so easy during the holiday season to slack off a bit and not hold yourself to your normal training schedule standards. Perfectly fine if you are in reset mode, and no competitions or fights on the horizon, but a bit risky to do if you are a smidge bit more than your […]
Read moreIt’s Giving: Unproblematic Queens
Nothing in this life will age you faster than the stress that comes with having toxic people in your life, so as hard as it may be, you need to cut those people off and surround yourself with positive ones instead. Women need other uplifting women in their life to radiate powerful effeminate yet masculine […]
Read moreMastering Your Mind
If you let your emotions control you and dictate your behavior, you will never be free from the burdens of the thoughts that chain you to mediocrity. If when in the midst of a high-intensity situation, you “see red” rather than being able to think about the logical next steps, you have already lost the […]
Read moreI’m Not Flexible, You Just Suck at Jiu Jitsu
There is almost no greater pet peeve I have in Jiu Jitsu, than an insecure man denigrating my accomplishments due to a preconceived notion about the way my body moves. Basically, what this refers to is when a larger guy has difficulties when rolling with me, his automatic ingrained response is to blurt out something […]
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