There are people out there who choose to make you a villain in the story so that they come off a little better, and as much as it may sting to not have your side heard, sometimes you just gotta let people talk until their throat becomes raw with the amount of lies they spew […]
Read moreAge Before Beauty
My husband is so handsome, and like a fine bourbon barrel aged whiskey, seems to get better over time, laden with intricacies and deeper layers to his appearance, making for an even more appealing and interesting overall aesthetic. After all, he caught the attention of someone 16 1/2 years his junior, and he so often […]
Read moreFeeling Seen
Lately, I’ve been making a bunch of Jiu Jitsu related content and videos on my social media pages, and I’ve read all of the comments underneath them, many laden with “I feel so seen!” And it really got me thinking about outliers in the community. Like dang, if you don’t fall into this neat little […]
Read moreIf it Were Easy, it Would be Called Your Mom
Everything in life is hard, literally everything. I know they say if it wasn’t hard, it wouldn’t be worth doing, but that doesn’t make the crap you have to go through any less difficult. Even the things you think come easy to some people really doesn’t. Sure, it may look like gifted athlete Cameron is […]
Read moreMistakes are Part of the Dues One Pays for a Full Life
Are you a human being? Have you been autonomous before? Have you made decisions, initiated actions, and thought about choices before? Then congratulations. You have made mistakes, you have been wrong, and you have caused grievances. No one is perfect in this life, and we are more than capable of being wrong. It is how […]
Read moreManifesting Happiness
I write so often about all the struggles I endure or the bad experiences I deal with, that I forget about all of the wonderful stuff too when I focus too much on the negative. And I am so happy to be writing that I have had a fantastic week, full of truly humbling and […]
Read moreThe Cheese Stands Alone
I worked so hard growing up never to stand out. I wanted to blend right in so I wouldn’t be differentiated and then subjected to scrutiny and ridicule. Never alone, but always amongst others where I could camouflage myself in the crowd. Early on in childhood, I pushed hard to excel and stand out. Then, […]
Read moreMy 2 Constants
Everyone who has ever read my blogs can be 100% sure of at least 2 things. The first being that although I fight in a cage and grapple on the mats, I’m still a human being with a wide array of feelings, many correlating to those of anxiety, and I get sad and nervous just […]
Read moreStereotypes
Stereotypes exist in BJJ for a reason, as much as we hate to admit it. And although some people get a harder rep for it than others (i.e., the heavyweight white belt dudes), everyone is guilty of these behaviors, it’s just that many times women are smaller with less muscle mass and therefore can be […]
Read moreGossip Queen
An unfortunate reality I have had to learn lately, is that I can not control the opinions people form about me from the lies they are told by disingenuous people. I’ve run into a conundrum lately, where I have found myself being shunted by people I thought I had a lovely and cordial and even […]
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