So lately I have seen a lot of people commenting and offering their own personal insights on the celebrity infidelity story that recently broke with Will and Jada Pinkett Smith. I find it a bit unusual and self-inflated that outside observers think they have any say or value to strangers’ relationships, and that just because we see them in the media constantly, doesn’t mean we actually know these people. It’s easy to project our own emotional insecurities when we see something we relate to or feel strongly about, especially if we have endured a similar situation in the past, however, since we are not personally involved there is a highly probable chance we do not know all that encompasses the situation. Call it an entanglement, an affair, infidelity or whatever, who are any of us to say how either party truly feels or how they should react given the aforementioned circumstances. No one is saying you personally can’t feel a certain way in regards to what you hear, but at the end of the day, it is not our lives nor our opinion that matters to either party at all. We have become a society so enamored with being privy to personal and private information at the click of a button or flip of a switch and I’m wondering when we will collectively worry about ourselves instead.
I’d be lying if I said the majority of us haven’t experienced being treated in a shitty manner from a significant other at one point in time. Hell, I had a shotgun held to me after being cheated on for months and rather than becoming a bitter and battered soul, I became better. Sure, this is easier said than done and I’d be lying through my teeth if I said it wasn’t one of the hardest things I have endured, but holy shit is my life so very blessed now. At the time all of this happened I also lost my job, became temporarily homeless, and tore 4 ligaments in my knee that required surgical intervention. But I persevered and then triumphed. Obviously, I wasn’t under the watchful scrutiny of the public eye nor did I give live interviews detailing every snafu that pervaded my life and relationships, but nonetheless, it was still far from easy. Perhaps this is why I am so appreciative of my partner now, and the love between us is unconditional and reciprocative, and I would be hurt to have others weigh in so heavily on my personal matters. Though I do know that by giving such personal interviews, they may have invited the outside opinion of others to commentate on their personal affairs but I digress.
To be honest, the only thing I want to entangle with is another’s limbs inside of the octagon. Don’t let all of this relationship talk distract you from the fact that some of us are out here looking for opponents to bloody up and engage with. And if we are really going to try to intervene in the lives of celebrities and famous people, can someone please get involved in whatever the Sam Hell is happening to poor Britney Spears? The ‘Free Britney’ movement that will send you down the rabbit hole of forced medicated subservience and constitional freedoms in regards to your personal well being and it is just sad. Or what about the shocking number of pedophile rings or sexual slavery running rampant throughout the elite and powerful in Hollywood that people are just turning a blind eye too? Apparently there is a lot of common knowledge on those “entangled” with underage children or forced sexual exploits and rather than expose them, people are sweeping it under the rug to protect themselves or out of fear of persecution. Fuck that. Expose them all and let’s start talking about the things that really matter versus an affair between a famous couple.
Barely anyone knows who I am and I still get some hateful and negative comments on my public social media accounts like Instagram or Twitter. I could only imagine if I was a celebrity and the things people feel like they have a right to comment or critique me on. I would probably always have my comments turned off and have someone else run the accounts so I wouldn’t be effected by the hateful drivel spewed from the mouths of the envious and ignorant. I admit that I have a terrible problem with letting the negative comments hurt my heart and I wish I could say I was always strong enough to just let it slide. I’m sure someone will even read this blog and shoot me a message on how I am judgmental and rude or something of the like. You would think as a fighter I would be better at handling criticism, but I guess I am just a big old baby when it comes to emotional confrontations on my character. For some reason I’m not as sensitive about appearance. I guess that’s because after all this time, I’ve accepted the person staring back at me in the mirror and every day work hard on cultivating my physical form to reach peak level performance. And a sexy bearded man loves me regardless. But yeah, if you attack my character, there is a good chance I’ll cry about it in the shower later.
Long story short, we are all out here living life and it does us no benefit to do nothing but speculate on any and every situation that exists that we did not witness or experience firsthand. While we may be able to relate to a multitude of grievances out there, truth of the matter is there is almost nothing in this life we know of for sure and can speak on with 100% clarity and certainty. I’m not gonna stress myself out fussing over the lives of others when it is enough of a task to try and keep everything in my life in check without dealing with the circumstantial and speculative rumors of others. I keep my nose clean and stay in my lane and hopefully keep working hard towards the goals and aims I have set for myself. I hope that we can focus our attention on the really important matters at hand, such as the global pandemic we are currently embroiled with or the childhood sex trafficking rings coming to light that many powerful people are vehemently trying to cover up. I worry about freedoms being infringed upon and people being persecuted and wrongly attacked and mistreated due to appearance, not the relationship issues going on with celebrity couples. Here’s to hoping we start seeing positive change in the world and really making a difference with the things that matter. I want to leave the world a better place than how I entered it, and gossip and speculation add no value. As always, practice empathy and kindness and fuel the fires to doing some good in society as a whole.